The Reception
Probably the most notable (certainly the most photographed) element of the wedding was the meal and speeches - Kate was pretty clear about the lighting she wanted, and we insisted on one long table. Kate’s Uncle Greg was an advocate for good lights so that is what we did. The result was a perfect setting, and the menu that the villa proposed was traditional Tuscan food. We had a slight reservation about serving veal as a main, but Kate's Auntie Jacqueline and Olivia, from
Italian Eye, had tasted it and said that, in fact all the food, was sensational. They were entirely correct, as they were about everything else as well.
The Details
Kate's Auntie Jacqueline was integral to the wedding, so many of the details were her idea and she was meticulous in her execution of these details. As we got closer to the date, we realised that Jacq had a better idea about what we wanted than we did! She also rounded up members of family to assist with the table setting details on the day which was so lovely and a personal touch.
We decided to get everyone on the dance floor for the first dance, and launched into Love Is In The Air by John Paul Young which went down a storm. The whole event was just as much for everyone else as it was for us. Firstly, Italy allowed a lot of Jack's UK contingent to make it (rather than an Australian location) but because it was a destination wedding we wanted to make sure everyone felt as involved as possible, this was the rationale for the Pizza Night in the olive groves the night before too - it allowed us to spend time with everyone and catch up with those we don't see as much these days.
Advice
We did have a budget, but we absolutely did not stick to it. I think we recognised that this was a unique celebration so we went overboard in some aspects and it was absolutely worth it. Best day of our lives.
Weddings are the pinnacle of positivity and celebration so it's important to understand that everyone in attendance just wants you to have a terrific time, just relax! Give yourself 5 minutes before the ceremony to contemplate how fantastic what you are doing is, and then embrace the occasion - it goes by all too quickly.
Also, no one really cares about the minutae (chairs, napkins, candles) so make a decision on that stuff quickly and concentrate on the stuff that does matter - venue, food, drink, music - the rest will fall into place. Lastly, have good people around you who know you well and listen to them.